Saturday, April 3, 2010

Ranting!

So I ALMOST outed my blog to my sister... since she too is going through TTC with PCOS and I talk to her about pretty much everything I talk about here but thank goodness I didn't because I get this text from her... "I think yall need to slow down with the baby stuff.  You have barely been married a year.  You are still young and have plenty of time unlike me (she is 29).  I think yall are stressing your marriage.  If you just enjoy yourselves it may just happen on its own."  HAPPEN ON IT'S OWN?! She of all people should know that cannot happen.  Also, who's to say- heaven forbid- that we won't have to go on to IUI and IVF and that WILL take years.  Ugh!  Absolutely crazy.  So thankfully I did NOT tell her about my blog and will not be doing so.  And stress our marriage, whatever!  I came home from work today with a hot supper on the table and flowers in the bedroom.  E is extremely supportive and I am beyond lucky to have him in my life! 

That's about it...just needed to throw that out here!

I haven't gotten a positive opk and thought I had some EWCM yesterday but it could have just been leftover pr.eseed so I'm not quite sure.  We're keeping up with the every other day business until probably then end of this week.  E is really enjoying it ;)

I hope you all have a very blessed Easter!

11 comments:

  1. I'm thinking there's a part of her that doesn't want you to get pg before her. IF is tough on ALL relationships. I think you are making the right choice moving forward with fertility treatment. You are right, you don't know just how long this could take. I think it is good to have a blog that is private from the real life world. It's my place to talk about anything and everything in safety.

    Ummmm I hope YOU'RE having fun, too! hehehehe

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  2. In my experience, infertility has brought DH and I closer. We've been trying for 3+ years, and going through this together has made our bond so much more stronger. It's hard for others to fully understand what you are going through and that's why having a blog is sooo theraputic. It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship with your DH and that you are having fun together in SPITE of having to do fertility treatments!!!

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  3. Heya Sam,

    Can't help but agree with Paige... if you've spent goodness knows how long sharing the TTC part of your life with her, it seems a bit strange to suddenly just turn around and spit that out...especially making references to age and what not!

    Nothing much more to throw on than what the other two have written other than to say that I've found the preseed to have a different consistency to EWCM... more watery than those stick and stretch properties. Mind you, with the PCOS you might have quite a few pseudofertile patches before the real deal. Unfortunately, one of those time will tell deals.

    BTW, thanks for the overshare - had a good giggle. My MIL wouldn't do that in a pink fit but I am sure one day she'll start dropping "hints" aka bombs of obious in regards to our childless existence... Anyhow, didn't get my tail on (everything is closed) but we had a discussion... which was semi-useful. Still don't think my odds are any good but I guess I won't give up until I'm asleep. LOL!

    Hope you're having a good Easter!

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  4. Wow - as someone who understands how hurtful those words can be (your sister) I'm surprised she used them on her own. Or maybe, just maybe, her marriage is starting to crack under the strain of IF and doesn't want to see that happen to you too.

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  5. I agree with one of the other posters -- TTC has actually brought DH and I closer together! Which is such a blessing, because I know this kind of stress has the potential to put strain on a marriage.

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  6. I agree with everyone else. I am sure that she is concerned that you'll have success before her... which would be hard for her. Take it with a grain of salt and remember that no one else's opinion matters when it comes to your personal life and TTC. As long as you and your DH are happy - great!

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  7. They've all hit the best highlights - I've got nothing else to add but, :hugs: !

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  8. I agree that she is probably scared that you will have success before her. When we found out that my SIL was pregnant, we were both devastated, even though we wanted to be happy for her. After several years, 8 months on Clomid, 3 months of IUI with injectibles, and an IVF, although I would never wish this on anyone, I get insanely jealous of people who get pregnant from using Clomid. I hope you have succes for sure, but it will certainly be hard on your sister!!

    Good luck!

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  9. ((((hugs))) I agree with some of the other ladies. Maybe she isn't being mean, but is thinking about herself and her age and may be worried about her own marriage.

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  10. So I have been trying since I was 24. Although DH and I had been married for 4 years by then. BUT I so wish I would have been more agressive, I let the first two years and miscarriages go by before I went to see an RE. Which I feel was a big mistake! Since age is totally a factor in IF! I think you are playing it smart by being proactive!

    And that is a funny text!

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  11. My mother said the same thing to me just a couple weeks ago. It was so hurtful. Like you are somehow forcing this on your husband. But obviously our husbands also want a baby and are also hurting. And you would think with your sister's troubles, she would understand. The only thing is I bet she's so terrified you'll get pregnant before her. It doesn't excuse the comment, but it does explain it.

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